(…and why that’s not always a bad thing)
There’s this framed quote hanging in my kitchen — artwork my husband got me. It’s one of those pieces I didn’t know I needed, but now I can’t walk past it without stopping to read it… multiple times a day.
It says:
“Someday, everything will make perfect sense. For now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears, and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason.”
Whew. That quote? It hits. Every time.
It’s been speaking directly to my soul — especially lately.
Because if I’m being honest… from early 2024 to now, I’ve been moving through what I can only call a soft identity crisis.
Not the loud, dramatic kind where you bleach your eyebrows and move to the Caribbean (although… tempting).
But the quiet kind — the kind where you lay in bed wondering, “Who even am I right now?”
My Second Visit to Motherhood Made Me Pause
My first baby changed me — no doubt.
It threw me into fight-to-make-it mode.
I felt like I had to do it all. Push harder. Strive more. Achieve everything, for everyone.
I wanted to be the provider, the strong one, the reliable one — all while silently shouldering burnout like it was part of the plan.
I was relying on family, but still grinding through every moment. No breaks, no breathers. Just pressure.
And honestly? I never really processed it all- never paused to enjoy the joys of motherhood, the miraculousness of giving birth…. I just kept going.
But baby number two? That’s when everything slowed down.
This second experience — from pregnancy to birth — felt different.
This time, I didn’t mute the moments. I felt everything. Every creek and crack, haha— that round ligament pain was no joke….
And instead of moving in survival mode, I moved in softness. Let me tell you, the amounts of mango I ate, I could have won a Guinness World Record.
Every stage was wrapped in a blanket of love — from my husband, my family, and my friends.
I didn’t have to power through. I got to be present.
And You Know What Else I Found During the Pause?
I’m actually a really creative person.
I love giving gifts — not just regular gifts, but thoughtful, “this made me think of you” gifts.
I’ve fallen in love with slow mornings, my coffee, and just being.
I’ve realized it’s okay to want a soft life.
It’s okay to let others take care of you.
It’s okay to say no to situations that drain you — even the ones that pay well.
Because peace? Peace pays better.
I’m Still Me… Just a Softer Version
I used to think softness meant weakness. But now?
Softness feels like power. Like freedom.
It’s the quiet confidence of knowing I don’t have to do everything to be worthy.
It’s letting someone else drive (even though I’m still checking the GPS five times from the passenger seat).
It’s choosing presence over perfection. And rest over performance.
So If You’re in a Season of “Figuring It Out”… Sis, Same.
If you’ve ever sat there with your iced coffee, thinking:
“What am I doing with my life?”
“Am I still the girl I used to be?”
“Is it weird that I cried over a candle commercial this morning?”
You’re not alone. I promise.
A Few Truths I’ve Learned Along the Way
- It’s okay to outgrow the version of you that once had all the answers.
- Softness is not a downgrade.
- You can hold grace and ambition in the same hand.
- You’re not behind — you’re blooming. Quietly, fully, beautifully.
So, Let Me Ask You:
- What part of you are you just now starting to discover or reclaim?
- Have you allowed yourself to be instead of always trying to do?
- When’s the last time you gave yourself permission to evolve?
Whether you’re in your kitchen reading quotes like me, or just trying to keep it together on 3 hours of sleep and caffeine — just know: you’re doing beautifully.
Even when you feel like a mess… you’re becoming.
And someday, it really will all make perfect sense.
But for now? Laugh at the confusion. Smile through the tears.
And give yourself permission to enjoy the soft, sacred middle of the journey.
Woman to Woman — You’re doing better than you think. 🙂
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